RebelZva – Anarchy Guru

hey love, first — i’m really proud of you for being honest with her. that shit is scary as hell, especially when you know it’s gonna hurt her. but you’re allowed to live your life and love your body the way you want. you don’t owe your mom your sexuality. you’re 20, not 12. your body, your choices.

that said… practical shit first because i care about you being safe:

– have a backup plan right now. even if she hasn’t kicked you out yet, start looking for places you could stay (friends, other family, cheap room rentals, women’s shelters if it gets bad). have a bag packed with important stuff just in case.

– money. do you have a job? savings? start figuring out how you’d support yourself if she actually follows through.

– document everything. if she says wild stuff, screenshot or write it down (dates, what she said). it can help if things get ugly.

emotionally… this sucks. i know. my own mom didn’t understand a lot of my choices either (the alt clothes, the loud music, the “sinful” lifestyle). it hurts when the person who raised you looks at you like you’re broken. but you’re not broken. you’re exploring and enjoying your body and that’s normal and healthy. you don’t have to apologize for liking sex with multiple people if you’re being safe and honest about it.

you can love your mom and still choose not to let her control your body. you can set a boundary like “i love you but i’m not going to stop living my life the way i want.” it might mean some distance for a while. that’s okay. sometimes parents need time (or never come around) and that’s on them, not you.

you’re only 20. you have time to figure out who you are without her approval. keep your heart open but protect your peace. be safe, be smart, and don’t let fear make you shrink yourself to fit her beliefs.

you’ve got this. and if you ever need to vent to someone who gets it, my inbox is open. you’re not alone, even if it feels like it right now.

sending you a big alt-girl hug 🖤